A tool for navigating relationships
Standing on wobbly legs, leaning against a low table, the toddler looks gingerly over her shoulder. She smiles at her parents, who sit watching her, then shifts her balance and begins to take her first step. Her parents are out of their chairs, reaching forward, hands extended, smiling and encouraging – “How wonderful… you’re walking!” – and then the triumphant infant sinks into their arms, beaming. “Well done, little one!”
We believe that moments such as the one described above lay down crucial patterns for our future. Patterns such as the way in which we will think, our attitudes, our emotional health, the ways in which we will choose to act (and react), and even our physical posture. These moments are so important because they programme our neural pathways, linking initiative, movement, pleasure, love, trust and relationship. We call this pattern The Golden PathSM 1.
Through decades of work with adult learners, as well as through being parents, we have discovered that The Golden Path can be learned and then used in many situations, and that it achieves magical results with children, their parents and other adults. Part of the magic of this approach is that through deeply connecting with our children we also grow and heal ourselves.
The Golden Path is composed of five steps, and we have found it to be useful for all sorts of interaction.